Decisions, Decisions…

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Decisions are funny things, aren’t they? Making one or not making one can completely alter the course of our lives.  Because of that we can put too much weight on a decision.  We make it mean everything and the danger there is that we don’t know if we made the wrong decision until we’ve actually made the decision.  This realization can cause great anxiety and stress about our choices.  We may feel paralyzed with fear of making a mistake, do nothing, and live with an intolerable status quo.

But what if you told yourself that you cannot make a mistake?  That the decision you make will be the best for you in the moment? Simply use the information that you have present at the time and choose what feels best.  The end!

We fear big decisions, because they often require a leap of faith or confidence in ourselves and our own abilities- yikes! Eventually, a fear of big decisions breaks down to a fear of small ones too.  You start having lengthy debates with yourself about eating a cookie! And that decision is easy- EAT THE COOKIE!

When we begin to fear decisions and lose faith in our ability to make them, the world will start to make or decisions for us and nobody wants that.  Trust yourself.  You can handle anything that comes your way, from the big “should I take this job or that job” decisions to the small “should I eat a apple or donut” decisions.  You are capable of choosing the right thing for you!

 

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Integrity

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A friend used to tell me that integrity is this simple:  “Say what you mean and mean what you say.”  This is true, but your declaration must also be supported by the appropriate behavior.  It’s easy to say something and mean it in the moment.  But how do you fair when you are removed from the moment?

Integrity is a three-part entity, but in most cases we will only perform two out of the three parts.  We will say it and meant it, but never do anything about it. For instance, saying you’ll call someone, meaning to, but never getting around to it.  We will say it and do it, but not really meant it. Such as, participating in an activity that you don’t really want to do or have any interest in to avoid confrontation.    Or we will do it, meant it but never verbally acknowledge it.  As in, loving your spouse or child with all your heart and never saying those  three special words out loud.

When we don’t use all three parts it makes us look discreditable and untrustworthy.  It can be a rude awaking to realize that your good word may not be “good” enough.  However, it’s still pretty simple: Say what you mean, mean what you say, AND follow it up with a supportive action!  Now get to it!

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Show, Don’t Tell!

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Show people who you are, don’t tell them. Very often we feel the need to get on the microphone and broadcast who we think we are to anyone who will listen.  I’m sure you’ve met people that immediately tell you how many degree letters they have to follow their name  or which board they are on or how much charity work they do. We want/need people to know how smart, kind, and  accomplished we are,  because we want recognition. We all want to have our lives witnessed by as many people as possible to be able to say, “I was here and I mattered.”

For some reason, in this world, we  define ourselves by occupation and status rather than by our actions. However if “actions speak louder than words,” what are your actions saying? If you say one thing & do another, what you say doesn’t count, does it?  If you constantly tell people how smart you are,  but act in a selfish way saying, “that’s not my job,” no one will ever want to promote you – and that’s not smart. If you say that you support the something someone’s doing, but never help them do it- how supportive are you?

Someone once told me this: if you show up in your life and be brilliant, people will not be able to resist you!   Again, decide who you wish to be before you enter a situation.  If you want to be intelligent, kind, and accomplished (or whatever) – act that way!  Stop telling everyone how wonderful you are and show them instead! You will be surprised at the results.