Today’s post was inspired by Michelangelo, RuPaul, Oprah, Teddy Roosevelt, Thomas Edison, Woody Allen, Rainer Maria Rilke, my grandmother, my husband, and my high school music teacher.
“I saw the angel in the marble and carved until I set him free.” -Michelangelo
On the road to achieving our dreams we can often feel trapped. We can feel trapped by our bodies, our circumstances, or our minds. There will come a time when we must free ourselves from our encasements and release our “angels.” There several ways to start freeing the angel; the following seem to be the most important yet most difficult. Here we go!
“If you don’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?” -RuPaul
“Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.” -Theodore Roosevelt
Total Self-love and Self Acceptance
You’ve got to get into an honest conversation with yourself. Acknowledge that you haven’t always been kind and loving to yourself; perhaps you’ve unintentionally sabotaged some of your efforts. Be gentle and kind to yourself; replace negative thoughts with loving words and actions. This is easier said than done and takes a lot of practice, but it crucial to achieving personal peace and satisfaction. A large part of self-love is completely accepting all of yourself. You may not be where you want (or who you want) to be, but you are at the perfect place to start making the changes that move you closer to your goal. There is nothing wrong with you and you are extremely capable! My high school music teacher, Mary Lear, gave me an excellent exercise in self-love and acceptance. Imagine yourself as an adult talking to yourself as a child (meaning there are two of you in the “room”). Say all the wonderful things that you would say to sooth an upset child. Hug yourself and tell the “child you” how much you love him/ her. I did this exercise while meditating and my child self actually spoke first. She hugged me told me that she loved me, was proud of me, and that I had never let her down as I thought I had. It was powerful!! Another exercise to try is to look in the mirror and say out loud, “I love you!” I still have trouble with this one, but it’s a work in progress!
“If you’re not failing every now and again, it’s a sign you’re not doing anything very innovative.” -Woody Allen
“Hell, there are no rules here – we’re trying to accomplish something!” -Thomas Edison
Risk-taking
This is always difficult, because our ego can get in be way. We don’t want to look stupid. We don’t want to fail. But really what happens if you fail or look stupid? Nothing! The world keeps spinning, the sun keeps shining, and you’re still here. If you feel at the end of your rope it might be time to let go and take a leap. God/Universe (which ever you prefer) will catch you! You must believe the Universe is conspiring for your good, not your defeat. Learn to trust yourself and your decisions. Again this is difficult, but you can do this in baby steps to start. Try a new food or an activity that you’ve always wondered about. If you don’t like it quit and try something else – that’s it.
“Be patient toward all that is unresolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves. Do not seek answers, which cannot be given to you, because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions.” -Rainer Maria Rilke
“I believe luck is preparation meeting opportunity.” -Oprah Winfrey
“This too shall pass.” -Velma Jean Philpot and Middle Eastern Proverb
Patience and Perseverance
Our modern society does not do well with delayed gratification, but it’s not going to happen over night. You are not going to lose 3 dress sizes in one week, you are not going to have your million dollar idea on Monday and make that million by Tuesday, and you are not going to win the Nobel Peace prize in the next three hours! It will take time. It may take several attempts or several years. That’s ok! Just know that with each small step you are moving towards great things! It might be cliché, but enjoy the journey. There will be so much that is out of your hands and you will have to make peace with that. Learn to laugh at the struggle, because as my husband says, it’s only temporary. Know that it will pass and that this is a mere chapter in your life, not the whole story. Pray, breathe, and do it again!